Says all things require hard work

 Busting ass

Back breaking 

Nothing is ever easy with the narc

words commonly used in vocab LIMITED vocabulary to describe most things

has small vocab to describe many things 

can't come up with various adjectives to describe most things situation people

fat cow

 slam (refer to me or anyone disagreeing with him)

chunk

dump (referring to pooping)

pleasant (which he is not most of the time yet expects me to be that way)

tightwad 

pisses me off

you think you know everything

another know it all

Thrives on stress, hardship, difficulty, negativity

 says everything is HARD work

Appreciates almost nothing about me

Doesn't want me talking to anyone

 And if I do make it short sweet brief and no personal

Not to give anyone information about anything in my personal life 

Wants it when it's leaving his house or presence

Sets up every room in the house for himself

Doesn't care about how I feel about much of anything

 Consistently

Shuts me down

Berates minimizes 

Invalidates

Doesn't believe me, doubts

Skeptical of my abilities desires thoughts preferences goals desirability from others, intelligence, importance, talents, dreams, 

Would never cry from hurting me or anyone else

Needs android stepford wife husband robot doll

Wants me to play down myself, brain, looks, talents...

 Beauty

Mind

Body .. keep it covered in raggy looking clothes

Charisma

Every single thing is a crisis

 any thing that does not fit his idea of what he thinks it should be

any person doing any thing he does not agree with

any thing that goes wrong, not as planned

any mistake made by any one or him

RESULTS IN BLOWING UP IN ANGER

MADNESS

FUMING

DISGUST

 https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-may-be-a-perfectionist-3145233

 http://www.pam-evans.com/blog/2017/6/26/the-perfectionist-personality-type

ALL ABOUT HIM

Shuts me out consistently. Wants ALL of the attention on him/her

Poor listener to me

Makes almost everything a stressed out chore ordeal. Used the word "WORK" with hateful attitude

 can't have fun doing much of anything

Talks over me. Thinks he knows what I am going to say and says it. Frequently wrong.

Watches weather constantly

Laughs at others pain

 Hurt

Illness

Sick

Sickness

Misery

Weariness

Tired

Misfortune

Mistakes

Tripping

Falling

Injury injuries

Failure

Missing the boat

Losing

Being late

Being wrong

Being last

Being humiliated tormented abused stabbed shot killed 

Robbed

Raped

Taken advantage of

Constantly confused about what is seen

looks at sex as sucking life out of him

Looks at all people things but doesn't take pictures.

Plays chess when relaxing and listening to stuff while scheming next moves

Narcs can't love

  Plain sex is all they want

Not romance

Not respect compassion 

99% self centered

Does not love any person

 i suspect he cannot love any person and never has 

possibly incapable of it

has shown some love for an animal such as a cat but not love compassion devotion caring for any human being that i ever saw including and especially myself

Makes time only for self

Needs a sexless roommate

 due to i am treating as a room mate

not a marriage mate partner who is loved 

works a lot makes no time for fun happiness pleasure

 instead works self into pain

complains

will not schedule any pleasant activities except one thing, a walk at the same park every time

almost everything based upon money

does not like to hear what he says or see himself in the mirror

 when confronted with his exact words or

shown  mirror becomes angry

defensive hateful mean threatening 

and say i am causing trouble

does not want to do fun things

shits on almost every good thing about me

 goes out of way to make me sad

unhappy

trying to make me angry

tells me i should be this or that

angry mad pissed hateful vengeful and is mean ungrateful

best bet be stoic silent never reveal plans goals dreams to narc

always trying to figure out what i am thinking/feeling my plans

 trying to anticipate what i am going to do

then throw a monkey wrench into it

take control of what i feel, think, want 

so he/she can feel like they are controlling me

DOES NOT LIKE TO FOCUS ON FOOD WHILE EATING

 INSTEAD will take a bite and do this all day long

while thinking about other things

working while eating

Anger instead of tears/crying

 rarely cries or tears up 

instead will

get mad angry pissed off 

whine, shout, yell, scream

complain bitch moan

say things like that really pisses me off 

burns my ass

makes me mad

ASS is most watched thing ... I have

Full blown idiot

Ridicules me for dancing swimming having fun being free spirited

 yet watches others doing the same and admires and appreciates it

Sets me up for being and staying poor then blames me for not having money

Wants to save the world. Can't even save himself.

No public affection display

 In private not affectionate 

Sex only without love

Lies like a mother fucker

Would fuck anyone anything cute

Doles out little bits.

 bits of food to animals and to self

consumes bits all day long of whatever there is laying around

Bitches about bills

 Since day one over 30 years ago

 Detests having to pay for necessary bills 

Chronic complainer

 

Faithless worrier

 Not a warrier

Says

 it won't last

everything is hard, a fight

you're stubborn, he/she is stubborn (when they disagree, are different, have persistence..