He looks for problems and focuses on them, the bad, negative. I immediately look for solutions to the problem.

 he creates problems and complications without realizing he is doing it

any solution presented is instantly rejected

You wont find them doing these things

 sitting around in a coffee shop having conversations with people

doing things not making them money

doing things uncomfortable for them

trying new stuff

accepting others as they are without judgment

truly empathizing with anyone

understanding charitable work 

doing anything without first thinking what is in it for me, what am i going to get out of this

Best for himself worst to me

 High quality choice self chosen items for self. Highest best expensive premium premo top of the line long lasting all the way.....regarding food drinks clothes tools auto automobile stereo electronics amps turntable speakers reel player tv television movie theaters shoes cleaning products solvents  metal detectors coins money music books tapes Cd compact disc streaming broadcast services like Pandora , hunting equipment, hobbies, magazines, books, trips, vacations

Purchases lavish items for self: whatever things they like value choose

Cheapest lowest for me. I am to do with the least have nothing fancy frilly premium expensive 

I am to operate minimally, simply, manually, with the least, ,,, plainly, lean, leanly, .i am to keep my mouth shut expect nothing, never call them out on this behavior or anything they do 

Doesn't want me talking to anyone

 And if I do make it short sweet brief and no personal

Not to give anyone information about anything in my personal life 

Dogs other people around

Hates innocence sweetness nice naivete naive SAYS IT IS STUPID AND BEING STUPID

says people make up excuses for any thing

 can't understand there is a REASON for everything 

expects sympathy/empathy and doesn't give it

 because they "can't understand why"

afraid of being wrong, found out, making a mistake

looks to public strangers media what is popular/famous to make decisions

acts obscene and ass hole behind closed doors in private

does NOT want to hear what you have to say, what you think or want (regarding partner spouse mate or immediate family member)

breaks your concentration so you can't focus

 and becomes irate if you break his her focus

not allowed your individuality

 

master slave believes mastery slavery

owns you: thinks/believes he /she owns you and your soul 

so he can dictate what you should do

conditional love

 if i do what he she wants thinks i should do then they will "love" me

believes YOU don't or people a person doesn't DESERVE that : anything nice pleasant money things ease comfort luxury

 however they deserve it all

because they

work hard HARDER

work their ass off

break their balls and back to get any and every thing

nothing is ever easy

 says this often

talks about how hard life is and work your ass off