He looks for problems and focuses on them, the bad, negative. I immediately look for solutions to the problem.

 he creates problems and complications without realizing he is doing it

any solution presented is instantly rejected

Opens mouth. Inserts foot.

Best for himself worst to me

 High quality choice self chosen items for self. Highest best expensive premium premo top of the line long lasting all the way.....regarding food drinks clothes tools auto automobile stereo electronics amps turntable speakers reel player tv television movie theaters shoes cleaning products solvents  metal detectors coins money music books tapes Cd compact disc streaming broadcast services like Pandora , hunting equipment, hobbies, magazines, books, trips, vacations

Purchases lavish items for self: whatever things they like value choose

Cheapest lowest for me. I am to do with the least have nothing fancy frilly premium expensive 

I am to operate minimally, simply, manually, with the least, ,,, plainly, lean, leanly, .i am to keep my mouth shut expect nothing, never call them out on this behavior or anything they do 

Doesn't want me talking to anyone

 And if I do make it short sweet brief and no personal

Not to give anyone information about anything in my personal life 

Expects others and outside circumstances to make them happy. Cannot generate internal happiness and smile just "because"

 bend to their will

do what he/she wants

look the way they expect 

act, talk, 

Dogs other people around

Name brands, brand specific loyalty dominate. Says they taste better or are better.

Self analysis is out of the question

Hypercritical at all times

conditional love

 if i do what he she wants thinks i should do then they will "love" me

believes YOU don't or people a person doesn't DESERVE that : anything nice pleasant money things ease comfort luxury

 however they deserve it all

because they

work hard HARDER

work their ass off

break their balls and back to get any and every thing

nothing is ever easy

 says this often

talks about how hard life is and work your ass off

likes to catch me or people off guard with irrelevant questions while I or they are doing something else esp if it is joyful or relaxing

 like as in 

 meal time is one of the favorite times to cause 

upsetting disturbances 

complaints

whining 

 bitching

accusing

threatening

meal time is one of the favorite times to cause upsetting disturbances complaints whining bitching accusing threatening