Everything a narcissist does is based on a pattern of some sort. They are highly predictable creatures and tend to do the same things over and over again. Reading their habits is just a matter of paying attention. It's like the mythical ouroboros snake that is eats it's own tail. They can't stop repeating the same patterns and cycles.
Whether it's the idealize, devalue, discard pattern or the gaslight and hoover pattern. It's always the same. Narcissists are very structured and inflexible. They are set in their ways. What they do they do repeatedly. That's why when they cheat, they cannot stop cheating. When they lie, they cannot stop lying. When they abuse, they cannot stop abusing.
How do you find their patterns? Just pay attention to the first time. It will happen again. Narcissists are very uninteresting in this way. They can be boring because they are so predictable. It's just not fun, but if you are trying to figure out their patterns you won't need to work very hard.
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